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Friday, 04 April 2008

A New York Minute

category_bug_journal2.gif I was there only 16 hours and indoors for 13 of them, but New York City was as familiar as if I hadn’t left in June 2006. It felt like home.

Walking the few blocks from Penn Station to Fifth Avenue and 35th Street on Wednesday afternoon, I heard four languages that were not English being spoken. I passed people whose skin was every color in the human spectrum. A homeless man explained how he was getting his life back together as he sold me a copy of The Onion. A few hours later, in Greenwich Village, another man asked me where Charles Street is and I was pleased to be taken, after nearly two years away, as a native.

You can take the girl out of the city, but you can’t the city out of the girl. It all felt right – the crowded sidewalks, the noise, the rude business people banging their briefcases into my shins as they scurried past, eyes focused on the middle distance, cell phones permanently attached to their ears. You don't see much of that here in Portland, Maine.

Before catching my return train yesterday morning, I walked my old neighborhood. My building, my beautiful, little, brick townhouse on Bedford Street, is boarded up, street trash collecting at the stoop. It’s empty. No one lives there now – Drew Barrymore, who owned the top apartment, is gone too - but it’s clear that no renovation is in progress or, maybe, has been halted for some reason.

The plexiglass on the front of the box on a wall down the street, mounted there to post announcements from the Bedford-Downing Block Association, which I started 15 years ago, is smashed, the postings curled and tattered. It looks abandoned, although the association will probably fix it during the annual spring cleanup.

It was early morning, 7AM, and the few people on the block were hurrying off to work. No one I recognized. The two guys who run the corner deli came out from behind the counter to hug me, big smiles on their faces. I bought a cup of coffee for old times’ sake and got some cash from the ATM. I must have done that a thousand times over the years; it felt familiar.

I was sorry the laundry, where all the best block gossip is exchanged, wasn’t open yet and I had no time to wait.

I wasn’t born in New York City, but it was home for almost 40 years and I will always miss it. The noise, the hubbub, the street energy fit me like a second skin. As the train pulled out of the tunnel in Queens, I looked back at the skyline and my eyes got misty. If I could afford it, I'd move back in a New York minute.

(I want to thank Naomi Dagen Bloom of A Little Red Hen for writing such a nice report about my appearance on the Brian Lehrer Live show on Wednesday evening.)

[At The Elder Storytelling Place today, Nikki Stern tells about letting off steam in The Beast Within.]

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Comments

Hi Ronni,

I'm so happy that you had such a nice visit to New York and that your appearance with Brian Lehrer was so successful.

I tried really hard to see that show but I just couldn't get it. I don't know why because I went to Brian Lehrer's site and saw many advertisements about your appearance, but still, I could not get that broadcast. I thought I was in the right place at the right time but apparently, I was doing something wrong or not doing something right.

Anyway, Ronni, are you able to reproduce your appearance here on your site so we can see it? I hope so.

Posted by: Nancy on Apr 4, 2008 8:21:07 AM

So many people have that intense love affair with The City. I hope one day you can move back.

Posted by: Rhea on Apr 4, 2008 8:22:13 AM

Nancy: One of Brian Lehrer's producers, Derek, said he will send me a disc of my segment which I will post here.

Rhea: Not much chance of moving back to New York City. There was a story in the Times this week that Manhattan is one of the few places in the country where apartment prices, already off the charts, are increasing.

I'll have to settle for visits now and then.

Posted by: Ronni Bennett on Apr 4, 2008 8:51:24 AM

That will be great, Ronni. Thanks from me and any others who would like to see it.

Posted by: Nancy on Apr 4, 2008 9:53:52 AM

That was so beautifully written it felt like I was walking round with you - except that I'm not that familiar with NY personally.
I've stayed there once - and only for a few days - pre-9/11 and would love to go back but it's far too busy for me to want to live there permanently (even if I could afford to - which i can't!)

Posted by: sablonneuse on Apr 4, 2008 10:13:23 AM

Get a Lotto ticket...hey, you never know. And just think of all those people (us included) who would jump up and down with glee that you could move back home. Sigh. Just do it.

Posted by: notdotdot on Apr 4, 2008 10:16:33 AM

Contrary to the old adage, I guess in some cases "You can go home again." Very nicely written, it conveyed your emotions very clearly.

I also was unable to access the show, so look forward to seeing it here.

Posted by: Deejay on Apr 4, 2008 10:34:12 AM

Loved your piece, Ronni. I would also move back in a minute if I could afford it. There is something about the energy of the city that just doesn't exist anywhere else.

Posted by: Ruthe on Apr 4, 2008 10:45:26 AM

I saw on the NYT an area of NYC where you can get a pretty good apt. for about $200,000. Was that real?
I totally wish you could go back and live in your NYC. What would it take for you to get back there? What if you could get a job through your page? Don't give up on the thought of going back. I love Montreal so much I'd probably come back (if I left) and live on the outskirts if I had to, just to be home again.

Posted by: doctafill on Apr 4, 2008 10:48:54 AM

ronni, let me know when you post the new link so i can update mine.

having eagerly returned to nyc 12 years ago,i empathize with the feelings you describe. this city has always been about change and the new-new, but your description of the speed of it all has many of us worried.

Posted by: naomi dagen bloom on Apr 4, 2008 11:02:22 AM

I do understand,, Ronni! New York has a style that is addictive.

Our family moved here 40 years ago from Toledo and if I happen to have an occasion to go back there, I get misty. I miss the rivers and the lake and the people. I don't have anyone up there anymore but I guess it will always feel like home. By rights, this part of Ohio should be home but it isn't.

Posted by: Kay Dennison on Apr 4, 2008 11:19:24 AM

I think NYC is addictive. I have friends there and dynamite couldn't remove them. Of course, they were the lucky ones who had the rent rate frozen and can afford to stay.

It's not only the rent that is exorbitant; I was shocked at the price of a hamburger when I was there.

Nonetheless, I felt the excitement of the city and the amenities were endless. I fully understand why those who have lived there cannot forget it.

Posted by: Darlene on Apr 4, 2008 11:33:17 AM

What an lovely remembrance... I have never lived in New York, nor even in a really large city (and spend most of my time at sea, as it were). But the few times that I visited - to hear the incomparable Beverly Sills - it was so compelling that I would have thoughts of moving there to gather it all to me.

My eyes mist over for you, Ronni - you got me.

Posted by: Cap'n Jan on Apr 4, 2008 12:14:34 PM

Just wait a couple years - in 2010 or so things ought to be a lot less expensive. Real estate market should bottom out around then.

Sad to see your old place boarded up. But sounds like maybe you left at a good time - a bit later you might not have been able to sell it, since it seems the buyer hasn't fared too well.

Here's hoping for real change in this country in the next couple of years, and new beginnings for a more affordable life for all of us. I think we all have to work to help make that happen...

Posted by: donna on Apr 4, 2008 2:30:00 PM

So much for that old longing worked up for Portland, Oregon........We on the west coast love it...Guess I prefer Nature to too many people jammed in to one place....And the noise would be a real hardship....

Posted by: Judy on Apr 4, 2008 3:25:13 PM

Judy...

Please don't read things into blog posts that aren't there. I didn't say I don't like Portland, Oregon and if I can't have New York, I'd prefer it to where I am now. There are some amazing similarities.

And just because some people like New York doesn't mean they don't like nature too.

At Time Goes By, we try to appreciate one another's point of view, even disagree with one another, but we leave out the snarkiness.

Posted by: Ronni Bennett on Apr 4, 2008 3:44:10 PM

Ronni, I went by last week when I was there and saw the old building. They must be waiting for some preposterous offer on it. What I heard, there are a lot of preposterous real state deals going on there. Driving out people like you or small shop owners at a fast rate.

Thank you for all your tips. We had a great time going up and down the streets eating in restaurants you suggested, or trying out some new ones of our own.

What a great neighbourhood.

Posted by: lilalia on Apr 5, 2008 5:12:06 AM

Beautifully written, Ronni.

Posted by: TropiGal on Apr 5, 2008 10:50:01 AM

I understand your love of the City and how at this time of our lives it becomes financially impossible for us to have what we would love. However, I hope that there is someway for you to return to Portland, Oregon if that is still in your hopes.

Posted by: Judith on Apr 5, 2008 12:21:52 PM

Ronni - You write so nicely that I got a visual trip and memory momemt. We haven't been to the "Big Apple" for many years. We use too like to go to the theater and have a meal at the WTC Windows of the World on the Paragon Tour bus trips in the '80's and '90's.
Thank you for sharing your experience and I am looking forward to seeing the Lehrer show.

Posted by: Sheila Halet on Apr 5, 2008 12:37:33 PM

Every time you write about NYC..I get a little lump in my throat because I know how much you loved being there. It seems to be the way most long-standing New Yorkers feel...even if they leave. I guess I'd feel the same way leaving the Chicagoland area. But NY has an ambiance not like many other places....addictive, yes. I'm so glad you had such a good time Ronni. I wish you could afford to go back to the place you love so much.

Posted by: Joy on Apr 5, 2008 4:36:50 PM

Lovely post. No matter where you move and learn to love a new home, it will never be the same as a home with forty years of memories and your unique history.

p.s. Saw your interview on Brian Lehrer. You were articulate and wonderful. The elderblogging community couldn't ask for a better spokesperson.

Posted by: ell on Apr 5, 2008 7:14:04 PM

Gorgeous piece, Ronni. I get a real longing for past homes, and I love all of them, including where I am right now. Even if there were bad experiences in some of them, it all became fertile ground for story writing ideas. We plant in the nearest soil and produce what we can. I think you've done a phenomenal job of turning the craft of writing toward the greater good. All life is political, they say, and if by that they mean the drive to make an informed decision, then you have created a reservoir of information for our generation that will make getting older quite a bit easier, or at least we will be able to share our best. Ta, note the new url!

Posted by: Claudia Snowden on Apr 6, 2008 12:26:05 AM

I am one of those people that, try as I might, simply can't fathom living anywhere else but New York City. But as each year passes, it becomes more costly and I foresee the day I will leave the city, not by choice, but because of the city's cost structure. But, I know I'll find a place I enjoy living. It won't have the same qualities, because I'm not sure they exist anywhere else, at least not for me, but closing one door and opening another is always a good thing.

Posted by: Arnold on Apr 9, 2008 12:27:46 PM


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