Friday, 15 March 2013
Crabby Old Lady Takes a Breather
Here's how it works: if you put yourself out here on the internet and if you don't hide your identity and if you take strong positions on political and cultural issues, some people are bound to give you a hard time.
Crabby Old Lady (aka Ronni Bennett in ticked off mode) knows this, expects it and ignores most of it. But too much online and offline communication recently has been just offensive. Or ignorant or mean or rude or presumptuous.
The same can be said for requests and “suggestions” about how this blog should operate, look or behave. (If you think it's so easy, run your own damned blog and if you don't understand basic internet functionality, keep your complaints to yourself.)
Generally, among TGB readers, such stuff is rare but the amount that has been pouring over the transom this week feels like an avalanche. It has sucked all the energy from Crabby leaving her tired, resentful and angry.
And although there is a serious purpose to Time Goes By, Crabby Old Lady enjoys it but this week, it stopped being fun and Crabby needs a breather.
So except for links to new stories at The Elder Storytelling Place, next week Time Goes By will go dark while Crabby ignores any- and everything related to this blog.
IMPORTANT: In the past when Crabby and Ronni have been fed up enough with the trolls to back away for awhile, some of you have left lovely messages of commiseration and appreciation for TGB.
Of course, those are nice but this post is not an appeal for compliments, flattery, praise or felicitations of any kind. It is just an explanation of Crabby's absence.
So please restrain yourselves, and we'll meet back here on March 25 after Crabby's breather.
At The Elder Storytelling Place today, Johna Ferguson: Pleasures
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We will miss you, Crabby!
Posted by: kenju | Friday, 15 March 2013 at 05:40 AM
Have a good break, Ronni. xo
Posted by: Gail in Kent, England | Friday, 15 March 2013 at 05:41 AM
Illegitimae non carborundum
Posted by: Tarzana | Friday, 15 March 2013 at 06:29 AM
Have a pleasant breather. Your readers will miss you!
Posted by: NSC | Friday, 15 March 2013 at 07:06 AM
Ronni,
Anyone who does not walk/talk lockstep with the likes of Paul Ryan is attacked by a paid cadre of trolls posing as commenters. And as Tarzana said, "Illegitimi non carborundum."
Warm cyber hugs.
Posted by: Deb | Friday, 15 March 2013 at 07:07 AM
Enjoy your break.
Posted by: Donna | Friday, 15 March 2013 at 07:30 AM
See you later.
Posted by: Celia | Friday, 15 March 2013 at 07:30 AM
You will be missed but I understand -- burn out happens to the best of us and you are definitely the best of us! Enjoy your hiatus.
Posted by: Kay Dennison | Friday, 15 March 2013 at 07:41 AM
See you on your return! Be well.
Posted by: janinsanfran | Friday, 15 March 2013 at 08:03 AM
Those (such as you Ronni/Crabby) who have substance to share and a willing heart, contribute.
Those who have neither substance nor heart spend their time and effort poking the aforementioned with sharpened sticks.
Enjoy your absence from the naysayers with sticks. The remainder of us will miss the education provided here, your insights, assisting links, humor and you yourself.
Issy
Posted by: Issy | Friday, 15 March 2013 at 08:39 AM
Don't let them get you down - - enjoy enjoy enjoy your time off!
I think you're wonderful.
Posted by: Joyce | Friday, 15 March 2013 at 08:47 AM
I don't know; I think it's just fine to scream and wallow for a while when we're pissed off. Very therapeutic. You go, Girl.
Posted by: Jean Gogolin | Friday, 15 March 2013 at 08:52 AM
Enjoy the break...we'll be here of course.
"Get your own damn blog" is my favorite line today. They have no idea.......
Posted by: annie | Friday, 15 March 2013 at 08:55 AM
I will miss both of you (Crabby & Ronnie) but know sometimes nothing helps but to back off. People can be mean and I can't imagine being on the receiving end of their venom. It's stressful enough just reading comments to another person. So good luck and I await your return.
Posted by: Stefani | Friday, 15 March 2013 at 09:01 AM
See you soon. A pox on the bad guys! Dee
Posted by: Dee | Friday, 15 March 2013 at 09:09 AM
Take your time and relax. We'll all be here when you get back.
Posted by: PiedType | Friday, 15 March 2013 at 09:26 AM
On this side of TGB, all is good! Sounds like a lot of chutzpah, telling you how to operate your blog that has been working just fine. Take a good breather and come back knowing you are held in high esteem by many.
Posted by: Linda | Friday, 15 March 2013 at 09:40 AM
Enjoy your break, we'll miss you.
Posted by: Sky McCain | Friday, 15 March 2013 at 09:42 AM
Can't imagine what any intelligent, thinking, rational adult would find "offensive" about your blog, but I guess it takes all kinds. . .There are some real jerks out there, many of whom--unlike you--are hiding behind a pseudonym. They don't have the talent, determination or commitment to run their own blogs so they trash yours. Whatta bunch!
Have a GREAT spring break! See 'ya on the 25th.
Posted by: Elizabeth Rogers | Friday, 15 March 2013 at 10:19 AM
Good for you. Have a ball!
Posted by: steve kemp | Friday, 15 March 2013 at 10:40 AM
Seriously? This is a shame. Haven't those folks ever heard of civility? Have a nice break, and we'll be looking forward to your return, Ronnie.
Posted by: Karen Swift | Friday, 15 March 2013 at 10:40 AM
"If you think it's so easy, run your own damned blog ...."
Much like Annie, I'm sure, my fancy got tickled by the above line. Hunky Husband wanted to know what I was laughing about!
Posted by: Cop Car | Friday, 15 March 2013 at 10:46 AM
Ronnie: Don't ever forget that living well is the best revenge!
Posted by: Hattie | Friday, 15 March 2013 at 10:54 AM
If you're bringing out the haters you must be doing something right! (Although I do think that some of the trolls are put up to it and possibly paid by the far right to invade sites that are talking common sense.) Have a good rest, but please return soon. We need you, and we have your back.
Posted by: Demaris Hammond | Friday, 15 March 2013 at 11:03 AM
I know the feeling having been, well, blindsided by some heavy hitters recently. Licked my wounds, resurfaced. We all need to do this now and again, we are so out there as target practice for themz that would trash us.
Rest, recuperate, recharge.
XO
WWW
Posted by: wisewebwoman | Friday, 15 March 2013 at 11:08 AM
"The longer I live on this earth the more I hope that there is no credence to reincarnation!" I'd like to share this comment from my blog about my post on trolls.
Rest up, enjoy the daffodils. -naomi
Posted by: naomi dagen bloom | Friday, 15 March 2013 at 11:56 AM
...and just when you'd said that you were going to talk about sex. Seriously, I admire you and value the thoughts that you share here. I'm am so sorry that you have been besieged by the narrow minded and mean! Hope you get well renewed...maybe take a few days at the wonderful Oregon coast?...and look forward to having you back!
Posted by: Ali | Friday, 15 March 2013 at 12:34 PM
We will all be waiting. Take as long as you wish. Take dear care.
Posted by: lilalia | Friday, 15 March 2013 at 12:38 PM
Breathe deeply. I will eagerly await March 25th. Oh, and in the words of my long missed Grandmother-don't let the bastards get you down!
Posted by: April | Friday, 15 March 2013 at 02:03 PM
Ronni, don't let the idiots get you down. But, they are not half as bad as mean people. How they got this way, Lord only knows. You are now a public figure, of sorts, and it goes with the territory. Maybe you should change your email address, keep it private, and simply monitor these posts, editing out the offensive ones.
Posted by: John | Friday, 15 March 2013 at 04:12 PM
...and I, too, was expecting the "sex" discussion today:)
You will be missed. Jane
Posted by: Jane | Friday, 15 March 2013 at 05:37 PM
Relax and enjoy yourself. Life's too short to do anything that you don't want to do in this moment. Read you later!
Posted by: Taru Fisher | Friday, 15 March 2013 at 06:49 PM
Just hope you are not off to a Carnival cruise!
Posted by: Carol Crown | Saturday, 16 March 2013 at 08:17 AM
I enjoy the blog, Ronni :)
Posted by: joann | Saturday, 16 March 2013 at 09:24 AM
Non illigitamus carborundum
Posted by: Eliza | Monday, 18 March 2013 at 05:52 AM
I share your annoyance with the trolls and spam but expect you're subjected to much more than my blog is. I enjoy what you write. I have several different theories about what some of it may be about. Hang in there! Get a fresh breathe!
Posted by: joared | Tuesday, 19 March 2013 at 03:37 AM
Stopped in today (3/21) to catch up and say howdy. I see you're taking a break. Hope you have a nice breather, a good getaway, a refreshing break!
Posted by: Frank Paynter | Thursday, 21 March 2013 at 10:44 AM