October's Gifts
Golden Oldie: What Happened to My Butt

Random Thoughts for Elders (and Others)

Still holding my breath over the debt ceiling. Here is the latest New Yorker cover which would be would be funny if it were not so real.

New Yorker Cover

• Regarding anti-aging products and other futile attempts to deny old age, doesn't there come a point when it is just undignified to pretend to be young?

• Maybe I should take a page from the LGBT community and start a “coming out” movement for elders: “I'm old and I'm proud.”

• Could it turn the word “old” from an insult into a compliment? Or even better, into just a description?

• Perhaps then we could we stop “honoring” elders with condescension. (The public transportation system in Portland, Oregon refers to elder riders as “honored citizens.” Blech.)

• People claim to be young at heart. What's wrong with old at heart? It sounds to me like someone who has a lot of practice at living and loving.

Open enrollment begins today for Medicare. Unfortunately, with the government shutdown still in force, Health and Human Services employees are on furlough and the medicare.gov website has not been updated for more than two weeks.

Perhaps, like me, you are looking for a new prescription drug program. You can search around the Medicare website but you will need to telephone the provider to confirm premium, deductible, copays and the formulary you need.

Enrollment is open for just seven weeks and the longer the shutdown continues, the longer it will take to update the website when it ends and the madder the scramble from millions of beneficiaries to find new coverage.

You can thank the rump of the Republican Party for this.

There's no telling what will happen in Congress later today (Monday) but I have a date in a few minutes with local Girl Scouts for an inter-generational Brownies (yum) and Board Games get-together at the local Adult Community Center. See you tomorrow.

At The Elder Storytelling Place today, Thomas Moore: Surviving Life


Good idea, a “coming out” movement for elders: “I'm old and I'm proud.” I think start practicing. Have fun with the Scouts and the yummy brownies.

Bravo....the Brownies beat The shutdown any old time. We are old and proud....that we survived this long. LOL

I'm older and I'm bolder. Deal with it!
; )

Surely, someone can come up with a nugget!

"Maybe I should take a page from the LGBT community and start a “coming out” movement for elders: “I'm old and I'm proud.”

Or try this one out.

I'm old
and I'm told
that I'm bold
and don't fold

Too long? The ending leaves something to be desired? :-)

I am now stuck on this word "honored." I remember visiting my dear son Timothy when he was living in Portland and he told me with great pleasure that elders were labeled "honored citizens." I felt pleased too, and not spoken down to - maybe thinking of the standard sign of great respect in Japan, where "honored" is an honorable title. I even checked the Oxford English Dictionary and came across no derogatory implications. I guess it is in the ear of the hearer. I like think of it as positive [despite my general cynicism about most things]. And a great deal better than "senior citizen," which does feel like a sickly euphemism to me. Although I suspect others would disagree with that!

I completely agree about "honoring" elders with condescension by using such terms as "honored citizens." For starters age has nothing at all to do with citizenship.

Language matters, and a huge part of various civil rights movements--pertaining to race, gender, sexual orientation, and disability-- has dealt with language intended to put and keep people in their place.

For example, the word "girl" is appropriate when applied to a female child but not to a grown woman (unless women choose to use the word amongst themselves).

How to accept that one is old and be ok with it? I think we need a plan.

So far,at 68, I feel fine. I am lucky to have good health and am sound of mind

First, I think we need to determine how to market ourselves. I think they call it developing a style. Facelift? Hair colored? --Fashion? Sporty?

No matter---just try to make something special about you as a person ---Could be always wearing scarves -- who knows.

Then, do interesting things that people will introduce you as---"this is the lady that does....."

I think being old and interesting is the key. Just my thoughts on success.

In the parlance of music songs that last are referred to as golden oldies. Maybe that title would fit some of us , but not me. I am a rusty nail still hanging on.

Well, you did head this post with the title "Random Thoughts" and that's mine. :-)

The age dilemma starts very early :
"I'm four and a half - almost five!"
"Of course I'm eighteen - I just lost my [graft card/driver's license"
" Not quite thirty"
"I just took early retirement"
"I'm eighty - you should live so long"

I insist on calling myself an "old lady" in multiple venues. People are disconcerted -- partly because I am not folks' idea of a "lady" and they are shocked when I embrace "old." Get used to it! Of course I have a life time of practice with generating these minor shocks, being a long-time "out" lesbian.

Old, Young, whatever! I'm just me, and I'm delighted to be here on this beautiful earth, even with all its problems. Don't much care what anyone else thinks of me. Just doing my best to get along and it will have to do.

Victoria--"I think being old and interesting is the key." If I wasn't "interesting" before I became elderly, I'll surely not be now. I'm happy for anyone who wants to make the effort to become interesting!

Janisfran--"I insist on calling myself an "old lady...." Close! I call myself an old woman. If I wasn't a young lady (and I wasn't), it isn't likely that I suddenly became one.
Message: I am what I am what I was - just an elder version.

Larry--It's hard to get it just right, isn't it. Nice try...don't abandon ship.

Ronni--"Could it turn the word “old” from an insult into a compliment? Or even better, into just a description?" The problem is, the youngsters are afraid that we elders take "old" as an insult - so they come up with all sorts of silly words to apply to us. IMHO, it is up to us to respond in such a way as to thank others for the compliment when they imply/say/acknowledge that we are old. I think it the adult thing to do.

I am old and I tell people that. I am healthy and act younger than my age, so perhaps it is easier to carry an "old" banner along with me. We all get older, weaker, and we die, and trying to pretend we don't is not healthy. But I certainly think we should not be treated as less than...because we are more!

I thought we were all "silver foxes"

Verify your Comment

Previewing your Comment

This is only a preview. Your comment has not yet been posted.

Your comment could not be posted. Error type:
Your comment has been posted. Post another comment

The letters and numbers you entered did not match the image. Please try again.

As a final step before posting your comment, enter the letters and numbers you see in the image below. This prevents automated programs from posting comments.

Having trouble reading this image? View an alternate.


Post a comment

Your Information

(Name and email address are required. Email address will not be displayed with the comment.)