On My Way - At Last
Let’s Retire to the Hilton - Again

Portland, Maine This Week

category_bug_journal2.gif Today, I am traveling to Portland, Maine, to spend some time this week looking at potential new homes there.

My reason for leaving New York City, which has been my home since 1969, is not unique. Too many older workers are forced out of the workplace earlier than they want, expected or are financially ready for because corporate America frequently engages in the illegal practice of age discrimination. They prefer cute young bodies just out of college to experienced workers with gray hair whose bodies probably don’t show off as well as they once did.

As baby boomers begin to retire in the next few years, this may change because there simply will not be enough workers to fill job openings the boomers will leave behind. But it has not happened fast enough for me to benefit yet.

When Crabby Old Lady first wrote about our decision to leave New York, she said,

“Is Crabby angry? You betcha. And sad and heartbroken and wretchedly unhappy to leave her home. Because she is generally hardwired that way, she’ll get over it - just not anytime soon. But at least, thanks to the wake-up call from Anne, the decision is made - and there is a kind of relief in that.”

Crabby was correct about getting over it. It has taken longer than I anticipated to sell my apartment, but that is done now and I’m eager to start a new life in a new city.

While I’m gone, I’ll post links to some TGB golden oldies I think you may enjoy. First, is the personal odyssey to the decision to leave my big-city home of 36 years.


Thinking of you in Portland this week, Ronni, and hoping that your new home is waiting there for you - if it isn't yet, it will be. The best thing of all for me about getting older, I think, is the growing knowledge that the old saw 'as one door closes, another opens' is really true; if you do all you can on a practical level, then open your heart and wait... a door will open.

Best wishes and good luck in Portland--it's a great city and a good stepping stone away from the NYC madness. We too are affected by the unwanted older worker scourge and are battling to stay in CT where we both grew up and want to remain. But maybe a new life via a new home base is the key. Again, hopes are high for your continued success.

I stumbled onto your blog while googling the phrase "getting older".

Probably funny, coming from a 26 year old, but this past holiday weekend I had my first bout with some really nasty acid reflux - something I've never had a problem with before, no matter what/how much I eat.

Anyway, aside from my apparent digestive problems, I wanted to say I really enjoyed reading through your blog.

I don't really know how to say this, without sounding disrespectful, but it's impressive to see such a great blog from an "elder". I hope I'm as sharp and interesting as you and your blog friends someday.

I can't believe all these great blogs in your sidebar from other "elders" and I can't wait to read them and take advantage of the wisdom and insight being passed on.

Very best wishes.

Good luck with your move, I did the same.
The British government now intends that in a few years time people will have to work until they are sixtyseven before they will receive the state pension.
As one who has already retired I have to ask the question....Who will employ all these older people ?... as very few employers want to employ people in their fifties let alone their sixties.

A few years ago I found myself out of work after being fully employed for more than thirty years. I wrote to around seventy companies and applied for many jobs in the 'situations vacant' columns and despite being highly qualified and experienced at all levels in my particular industry no one wanted to employ someone who was approaching their half century.

My thoughts will be with you. Looking for a new place is exciting and when you see the right house or the right apartment, you'll recognise it, I'm sure. As for owning a car, not one of my favourite possessions, one gets used to it. I bought my first car when I moved seven years ago, and sometimes, I wonder if I shouldn't sell it ;) But then I have never liked cars.
Keep in touch.

I'm a Mainer and I work in Portland. I haven't read enough of your blog to know what made you select Portland, Maine, as a destination or why you think it will be easier here to find work than in New York. There has been in influx of youngish families moving to the Portland, enough so that a feature article appeared in the weekend news a couple of weeks ago. The housing market around here may be a lot less expensive than it is in New York, but then again, so are salaries.

Good luck to you.

I just discoverd your site, and now you are taking a break! I guess I shouldn't call it a "break." Moving is a bit of work. I'll spend the time catching up on some of your previous posts...it promises to be a most enjoyable journey. Hope your journey is as wonderful as mine.

When you get "back," please come see me if you can. I think you'll enjoy my observations in irony for the "happy" woman.

Ciao for now...



Thinking of you Ronni. Good Luck with EVERYTHING!

i went to portland maine for my job once and it is gorgeous!

Here's wishing you only the best, Ronni, in your Portland venture.

A friend who left ABC years ago (had been an AD on Milton Berle, other positions later) moved to another state, became involved in buying TV ad time for an agency there. Seems the younger people didn't know the ins and outs like she did, so kept her working well past her 70's. She received recognition in a multi-state area. Lung cancer took her from us.

With your writing skills, not to mention other abilities, Ronni, there just has to be something special waiting for you.

Can appreciate the frustration that goes with the age discrimination employment factor as you have been in a business ripe with it.

I expect I may have been a prime candidate for a similar experience (as many are) but my life path took me in a different direction. I moved from a midwest TV market area, then took a few years off for family, followed by two more moves. Found myself living in one of the more competitive markets in the entertainment world, where BEAUTY and YOUTH reign, even for those of us who want to work behind the scenes.

Perhaps I folded my tent too quickly, but concluded (l) I didn't want to battle traffic and long hours getting to and from a place of employment. (2) I believed that being on the tail end of my youthful years, the kind of employment I wanted would be hard to come by (based on my observations when I was one of the youthful employed.)

I made the decision to pursue a career in a different communications related profession, so returned to college for another degree. Perhaps my decision wouldn't be for everyone, but it has worked for me. That's not to say I had an easy time of it.

Tee, re your acid reflux, can hit at any age (just like cataracts,) so don't feel badly. Among other things, suggest you stay upright 30 mins to an hour after eating; keep your head elevated 30-45 degrees whenever you lay down, including when you sleep; check these suggestions out with your doctor.

Suggest you find something to laugh about every day, Ronni! Check that suggestion with your doctor.

My husband and I retired to the foothills of western Maine 3 years ago from Connecticut and haven't looked back. Be warned, though, the state income taxes are high! We were a little shocked by that. Portland is a great city. We love living in the country. If you're an outdoor person there is so much to do.
Savor the move. You'll love it!

Hi Ronni...

Theo here, on Vesper St. in the East End and long-time fan of your
wit, wisdom and wonderfully articulate crabbiness.
Please give me a shout if you can use
a hand with your Big Move or would
like a walking tour of Portland's less-well-known delights. There are lots of them. You chose well.

Best wishes,,,,Theo

(fellow crustacean)


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