Elder? It Fits Nicely
Next Stop, Portland Maine

Between Worlds

category_bug_journal2.gif My friend in Pennsylvania – Neil, the one who found my beautiful, new, red car which I picked up and drove back to New York on Sunday – made a remarkable observation while I was visiting with him and his wife, Donna, over the weekend.

He said that for these few days between closing on the sale of my New York apartment and moving into my new home in Portland, Maine, on Friday are like a stepping through a science fiction time warp – moving from one world, one kind of life, into an entirely new one. It’s a clean slate, Neil noted, on which I could remake myself, if I want to, into a different person.

That’s unlikely, but it does feel like a period of limbo; being poised on the edge of a dramatic change in, fully aware of its approach and having the time, between dimensions, to take a deep breath and live neither life for a few days before stepping into the unknown.

It will be much like a literal suspension of time because I’ll be in a hotel room for three nights in Portland, and all hotel rooms are the same – innocuous pictures on the walls so not to offend anyone, the same arrangement of the same furniture – one bed, one desk, one chair - little shampoo and conditioner bottles neatly lined up in the corner of the bathroom vanity. There are never surprises in hotel rooms and nothing to identify one’s location. While you are in the room, you could be anywhere - Portland, Maine or Singapore.

Births. Marriages. Deaths. And their anniversaries. Going-away gifts when people leave. Welcome home parties when they return from being away a long time. We recognize the life-changing qualities of these events and mark points on our journey from cradle to grave with celebrations of them.

This one comes for me at a propitious moment: the 65th year of my personal life journey which is the traditional dividing line between the waning of adulthood and the onset of elderhood. How lucky I am to be celebrating that passage with what, for me, is an unexpected adventure, not something I planned for many years to do at this time in my life.

I’ve always liked surprises.


Good luck, Ronni. What timing. But I think we all do what we need to do when we are good and ready. My thoughts are with you throughout this process.

Here's hoping you make some delightful discoveries - but no big surprises (since they could be bad ones!)

I haven't moved as much as some, but I have learned that where your stuff is, is home. I've also learned that the longer you live in one place, the more stuff you accumulate, but the more you move, the less stuff you deem important to take with you. Besides, it so much fun to shop for new stuff. Oh, and staying in a hotel when moving is like a mini-vacation – no beds to make, no meals to cook, no dishes to, just a little haven from all those boxes. Then when you are all settled in the new place, you are so proud of your accomplishment you almost want to plant a flag on your new doorstep.

Elderhood, huh? I guess I'd better enjoy the last 2 years in my adulthood while I can!

Looking forward to seeing a picture of you in your newest pride and joy!

Surprises come in all shapes and sizes, some welcomed, some not, some of minor significance, some life-changing... everything in between. Some of the best surprises can result in unparalleled positive experiences as a consequence of unplanned adventures.

As you move from one long adventure toward a new one, keep in mind that there is something to be said for a period of being in limbo... between dimensions. This can be is a time to feel, a time to think, a time to calm the soul following the previous adventure.

This can also be a time to relish the feelings of anticipation for what may come, to think of plans to initiate in the new adventure, to dream of dreams which may seem unreachable, but may not be. What is life without dreams?

You continue to describe the anticipation with which you look forward to your adventure in Maine. I believe your attitude and personal qualitites will enable you to experience life's Maine adventure in ways that will far exceed any expectations you could envision. That is my wish for you.

It sounds very exciting and I think it's great to be open to new adventures at any age. There will be so much for you to explore as you and Oliver make a new life for yourself.

Hi, there ... This is (one of your) "fellow" April 7th b'day gals checking in as you prep for the big move. I've been a moving bean my whole life. Trekked from New England via New York all the way to the Pacific Northwest (which I'm loving!), with more than 20 years in the Southwest sandwiched between. Yet, other than for my childhood home, I never seemed to have had time or inclination to pine for place. Three years ago, I left the heat and made my way (sight unseen) to a totally new destination and have never felt nostalgia for or regret over what I left behind. When change seemed to be begging me to consider it, I'm so glad I didn't wait for a self-imposed timeline but instead listened to that wise inner voice. Just by the way you've described everything, I get a good feeling for you, too. Maine from the little I've seen of it, is probably much the same as here on the Pacific side, opening you up and letting you have an airing unlike in cities or even other climes. I warn you, though. You may drive happily 'round in a flashy red auto, but you'll be in perpetual swoon over all the green that surrounds you! Best wishes, Ronni. Will be so keen to learn of all the marvelous new things you encounter.

It is a bit like a sci-fi time warp, Ronni! Moving through a portal, from one life to a totally new one. I'm so excited for you and can't wait to hear all about your new adventures, discoveries, and who knows what? Good Luck!!!

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