THE KIND OF CENTENARIAN I WANT TO BE
In April, Eileen Emeline Ingles of Invercargill, New Zealand, turned 100. Until a year ago, writes reporter Gwyneth Hyndman, she ran to the mailbox every morning. I like what Ms. Ingles says about her age:
"Lots of people growl about being old – but you come to it gently. Sometimes you are a bit ratty, but we all have our bad days. I've always been a worker; I'm not one of those people that sits around."
You can read more here. (Photo by Robyn Edie/Fairfax NZ)
HIGH SPEED RECLINER
For the “what will they think of next” file sent in by doctafil:
[From the YouTube page] ”Here's one comfortable commute. A man in China has souped-up his recliner and is taking it to the streets.”
THE CAREGIVING WIFE'S HANDBOOK
The title is limiting – plenty of husbands care for their sick and dying wives. So do parents, children and friends. It is no easier for them than wives and there is enough good, non-gender-specific information in the book that friends and other relatives should not be put off.
What IS off-putting (for me, anyway) is that every one of the six “real-life” caregiving wives writer and psychologist Diana B. Denholm quotes at length are embarrassingly whiny – not just once but repeatedly throughout the book. Three examples from among many:
“I want to be a good wife,” says one, “but I am getting older and don't want to give up what's left of my life.”
“Something else I'd really like to say to him is, 'You ruined our retirement plans. We had to scrap them, and I missed my chance.'”
“Until the very end, I want to be there for him emotionally so this is easier for him. But I don't want to be his scrub nurse! I trained to be a teacher, not a scrub nurse.”
How hard did Denholm need to look to find these selfish, faithless women? I know how exhausting caregiving is; I've done it. I know how unpleasant and “icky” it can be. And it can go on for years and years and years. But who else should do it? And whatever happened to “in sickness and in health”?
There is nothing morally or ethically special about me and there is plenty in my life I am ashamed of. But it never crossed my mind while caring for my mother to question what I was missing or giving up. Everyone has a bad day now and then, but these women sound resentful about every single day.
All that doesn't mean The Caregiving Wife's Handbook isn't useful, especially for those who seek psychological support and suggestions for coping. It is available in print at all the usual book outlets. There is no ebook edition.
DANCING COUPLE IN LOVE
Tarzana sent this video of Peeping Tom, a Brussels-based dance and theater company. Their work, says the group's homepage, "explores the idiosyncratic behaviour experienced in close relationships." It is both quirky and beautiful.
WHO ARE THE JOB CREATORS?
There was a big hoo-haw on the internets this week when the well-known TEDTalks refused to publish a March presentation by millionaire Amazon investor, Nick Hanauer, about who is and who is not a job creator.
Unlike Mitt Romney, Jamie Dimon and other rich people who say only they create jobs, Mr. Hanauer believes it is the middle class who does and of course, he is correct.
But this is hardly startling information. Thom Hartmann, among others on TV and radio, has been harping on this for years and if you only vaguely follow political news and commentary, you have read dozens of economists and others who explain how and why this is true.
Pretty much only Mr. Romney, his supporters and most Republicans don't know this - or pretend they don't in a continuing effort to preserve their low tax rates and loopholes.
Enough dust was raised by websites accusing TEDTalks of elistism in not publishing Hanauer's presentation that they finally relented, releasing part of the talk on Thursday. I'm pretty sure TGB readers - or, at least, the ones who comment here - are way ahead on this issue but just in case, here is the Hanauer TEDtalk.
MUSIC IN THE SUBWAY
I love its speed and convenience, but the New York City subway is also dirty, gritty and loud. Nevertheless, last Wednesday, 72 musical acts auditioned at Grand Central Station to win prime subway positions where they may perform for a year amid the din and crowds.
Here's a little story about those musicians produced by the MTA (Metropolitan Transit Authority).
CATS AS FONTS
The funny folks at I Can Haz Cheezburger have a whole bunch of photos of cats as they would look if they were fonts. Here are Trajan Pro, Courier and Wingdings:
You'll get a good giggle from the rest of them too – just click here.
SONG FOR WISCONSIN RECALL
Remember last year's amazing demonstrations in
Milwaukee Madison? Tens of thousands of people for days and days in the depth of winter protesting against Wisconsin Governor Scott Walker.
They got enough signatures to recall the governor and the election is coming up soon. TGB Reader Bev Carney sent along this video, You're Fired, by rapper Jasiri X.
Yeah, it's time for a Recall
United we stand divided we fall
We tired of being treated like we small
You forgot you work for us and we the boss
The rest of the lyrics are here.
NOTHIN' BETTER THAN A LAUGHING BABY
Unless it's a laughing baby in a bathtub playing with the dog.
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