Rewind the Week – 11 July 2014
ELDER MUSIC: The Songs of Gerry Goffin and Carole King



Mary Phillips has lived in her San Francisco apartment for 50 years. She has always paid her rent on time. But she's being evicted anyway – except that she has no intention of going quietly. Take a look at this news report from KRON-TV that explains it all.

Hurray to Mary Phillips for fighting back and I wish I could help. You can read more here and here.


I was – and you could say I still am – a big-time Harry Potter fan. I didn't quite line up at bookstores at midnight with the eager youngsters when new books were released but I wanted to.

Now there is a new Harry Potter story from J.K. Rowling in the form of an item written by gossip columnist Rita Skeeter reporting from the 2014 Quidditch World Cup Finals. Here's an excerpt (poor grammar and all):

”About to turn 34, there are a couple of threads of silver in the famous Auror’s black hair, but he continues to wear the distinctive round glasses that some might say are better suited to a style-deficient twelve-year-old.

“The famous lightning scar has company: Potter is sporting a nasty cut over his right cheekbone. Requests for information as to its provenance merely produced the usual response from the Ministry of Magic: ‘We do not comment on the top secret work of the Auror department, as we have told you no less than 514 times, Ms. Skeeter.’

“So what are they hiding? Is the Chosen One embroiled in fresh mysteries that will one day explode upon us all, plunging us into a new age of terror and mayhem?”

You can read the entire short story here.


Honest. It really is. In Finland and wait until you hear what it is: The Wife-Carrying World Championships. It's so silly and although it has been held since 1992, it has its origins

“ the legend of Ronkainen the Robber. According to Finnish folklore, stretching back to the 19th century, it was his method of testing aspiring members of his gang by forcing them to lug sacks of grain or live animals over a similar course.”

Here's a video:

You can read more here. (Hat tip to Wendl Kornfeld)


Doctafil made my day this week when she sent a wonderful - as in filled with wonder - candy commercial. Take a look:

I am in awe of the mind that thought this up. There are some more Freddy the Cloud Skittles commercials here. Laugh and enjoy.


There is a lot more to job hunting these days than what people our age are accustomed to. My friend Rick has issued his new, five-part video series that covers all those details. As the Qunitcareers website notes:

Rick a job board pioneer and job-search expert, whose mission in life is to empower job-seekers with the inside information and tools they need to succeed...He’s a guy who gets it and wants to share those insights with anyone willing to listen.”

Here's a preview of the video series:

You can find out more at Rick's website and if you go to the Quintcareers website, you'll find a 30 percent discount for the purchase.


In a not only important but beautiful essay, Minneapolis internist Craig Bowron argues for less treatment of elders when the end of life is near.

It is almost a crime to quote just a sentence or two from this informed, heartfelt piece but I'm going to do it anyway - picking up where Bowron is discussing the family decision for more treatment or not:

”Doing something often feels better than doing nothing. Inaction feeds the sense of guilt-ridden ineptness family members already feel as they ask themselves, 'Why can’t I do more for this person I love so much?'

“At a certain stage of life, aggressive medical treatment can become sanctioned torture. When a case such as this comes along, nurses, physicians and therapists sometimes feel conflicted and immoral. We’ve committed ourselves to relieving suffering, not causing it.

“A retired nurse once wrote to me: 'I am so glad I don’t have to hurt old people any more.'”

If you click only one link in this blog post today, please make it this one and read Craig Bowran's entire essay from two years ago. (Hat tip to Tom Delmore)


Last Monday, we talked about loneliness and old age. I should have included this song from Adam Sandler used in the delightful 2009 animated film, Up. It doesn't need to apply only to couples.


From TGB reader, Zuleme, this too cute kitty video went viral this week:

Interesting Stuff is a weekly listing of short takes and links to web items that have caught my attention; some related to aging and some not, some useful and others just for fun.

You are all encouraged to submit items for inclusion. Just click “Contact” in the upper left corner of any Time Goes By page to send them. I'm sorry that I probably won't have time to acknowledge receipt and there is no guarantee of publication. But when I do include them, you will be credited and I will link to your blog IF you include the name of the blog and its URL.


Good morning, Ronni. And Thanks.

I think my friend in Raleigh, Mary Phillips, might be interested in that first one.

The kittens are wonderful!!

Good for Mary Phillips. A situation made of speculative greed among other things. Sad.

Thanks for Craig Bowran's essay as well. I plan on sharing it with my kids and sisters along with the end of life stuff I have already given them.

Loved the Skittles cloud.

I read Dr. Bowron's article a day or two ago and thought it was wonderful. In the past I've read similar remarks from other doctors. I thought about printing it out and putting it with my Advance Directive or other obvious place for my family to see when the time comes. I've specified no extraordinary measures, etc., but saying it and having stressed loved ones abide by it may be two different things. So often, painful and/or invasive tests, procedures, and treatments only only prolong the inevitable and make the patient miserable in the process. I hope to be spared that, and hope I'm able to say so.

Love the kittens. Saw it a few days ago and immediately sent a link to all the cat lovers I know.

The comments following Craig Bowron's essay illustrate the problem. When family members believe life is so precious that it should be sustained - even if it increases suffering of the dying - few doctors will get into that battle.

It's messy, and Bowron is right to point out that few of us are familiar with the plight of the long term caretaker, and wish to deny the truth that many caring physicians indeed have the insight to know that death is near.

Hooray for Mary Phillips. Her's is a battle that needs to be done. It appears the California legislature needs to fix that law ASAP.

oops. meant to say "won'" not "done."

Conscious dying, in a spiritual atmosphere, hopefully will trump all unnecessary and invasive procedures when this transition is imminent. That is my hope anyway.

I clicked on one link...the essay by Craig Bowron. Thank you for that.
And then I clicked on a few more items!
Thank you as always

Mary Phillips update:

Dr. Bowron is absolutely on target as I see it. I can only hope that a doctor trained by him or a physician with similar views can be present for me when the time comes. I am a total believer in palliative care at the end of life. I want no (and I mean NO!) useless high-tech, intrusive, painful, personhood-destroying procedures, machines, tubes, etc. I've signed everything I can get my hands on AND have also written a 3-page single spaced letter detailing my wishes. I hope it's enough!

I don't understand on what grounds they are kicking the 98-year-old woman out of her home. In New York you need to get a court order to evict someone, and you wouldn't likely find a judge willing to evict this woman if she is current with her rent. If you ask me, this is an example of a crappy news story that totally fails to provide the most important information.

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