Here are the two winners in the random drawing announced Monday for Malcolm Nance's book, Defeating ISIS: Who They are, How They Fight, What They Believe. Two days later, I rolled the handy-dandy, online random number generator and...
Drum roll please:
One of the winners is Celia Andrews who blogs at Celia's Blue Cottage. The other is Yvonne Behrens. Congratulations to you both - and books are on their way.
You may have noticed that the headline on today's post is the same as the subtitle up there on top in the banner of the blog. I've tried to make that thought a large component of Time Goes By even if not the entire purpose.
When I started this blog back in 2004, there was literally nothing good being written anywhere in the popular press about growing old. I've told the story here many times that the media – and the culture itself – made getting old sound so awful (and they still do) that I thought then I might as well shoot myself at age 62.
But I didn't really want to do that so I started TGB instead.
However, there was an error I've carried through these pages for too long: I've overdone the positive sides of ageing or, maybe, underplayed the difficulties. Or both. And I want to start fixing that.
Getting old is hard. Most younger people (including ourselves back then) have no idea what courage it takes to keep going in old age.
From simple aches and pains with or without a particular cause to the big deal “diseases of age” like cancer, heart disease and others that afflict elders in much greater numbers than young people to counting out medications, following special diets, exercises, etc., it takes a lot of work, a lot of gumption to grow old.
All this came to mind a few days ago when I ran across a list of tweets about a some changes that are common to most old people I know – and that's what makes them funny.
Some might think these are ageist but I think we need to reconsider how easily we (or I, sometimes) throw around that epithet.
I am beginning to see that such a judgment can require more nuance, as we are discovering is so with the accusations of sexual harassment and/or misconduct and/or abuse can be.
A lot of these were good. Here are my favorites:
- I thought I was just really tired but it's been five years so I guess this is how I look now.
- The older I get, the earlier it gets late.
- I'm not saying I'm old but I just had to increase my font size to "Billboard."
- Hey guys, remember when you could still refer to your knees as right and left instead of good and bad?
- You know you're getting old when you pull out your high-powered back massager and actually use it on your back.
- I'm so old, I can remember getting through an entire day without taking a picture of anything.
- My daughter just asked why we say "hang up" the phone and now I feel 90.
- I may be getting old but I'm not "let me call you, I hate texting" old.
- You know you're getting old when you finger cramps up while scrolling down to find the year you were born on a website.
You can see more of them at Buzzfeed but feel free to add your own in the comments.