Old People and the Opioid Problem
INTERESTING STUFF – 21 September 2019

Scheduling Old Age

Let me say right up front that the thoughts in this post are speculative. I have not discussed them with anyone (except for you today) and it could be that there is a term for this I don't know that caused me to come up empty when I tried an internet search.

Nevertheless, it is a real and important issue in my life and I wonder if its an old people's thing more generally.

I have always kept a detailed calendar. It relieves me of trying to remember if we said we would meet on Monday or Tuesday, and it is a central place to keep notes about the items on the calendar I might otherwise misplace.

Nowadays, electronic calendars make themselves even more useful than the pre-computer paper ones with such conveniences as reminders and syncing phone to desktop. And a calendar is no less important to keeping track of my life in retirement than when I was working.

What has changed, however, is that I am older, sicker, tireder and, compared to my work years, have much less time to take care of what's necessary each day, set aside time for leisure and be sure to meet the obligations I have made with others.

Thank god for calendars.

All that is to say that I curate my time and energy via the calendar. If I have medical tests or doctor appointments, I make no other plans that day and often not the next. With travel to and from, those usually eat up three hours of the day, sometimes four.

And for some reason activities away from home are extra tiring than whatever I'm doing at home.

One of my greatest pleasures is keeping up this blog. That involves setting aside hours of time on certain days, sometimes full days, because there is never any telling how long it will take to get something written that is good enough to publish.

I rest more often than I once did. A couple of times a week, I feel the need for a nap. If not, I usually stop whatever I'm doing now and then to just sit. Sometimes to meditate, sometimes to be still and let my mind wander for awhile.

In addition to the usual household chores – cooking, cleaning up, sweeping, laundry, taking out the trash etc. - I schedule regular, long telephone calls with friends who live far away. They tend to last about an hour but three hours is not unusual either.

So on paper, I would seem to have all my ducks in a row to, within the circumstance and requirements of my age and health issues, keep daily life running smoothly.

And that's true. Except when it's not.

Although I schedule my time loosely so not to be too rigid, it is a schedule nonetheless and when I book too many appointments in a short period of time, I pay for it with increased fatigue and distraction which, of course, means things don't get done.

I might be too tired to do the grocery shopping I'd planned or if it's late in the afternoon, I can't seem to concentrate on the blog post I'm writing. When I'm that tired I even have trouble answering email sometimes.

What no one told me about being old is how long it takes to do everything and if you (well, I mean me) don't plan your time well enough, you end up getting nothing done – neither requirements nor the fun stuff.

So much to do, so little time.

So if a friend wants to reschedule a phone chat or change the day of a lunch, I'll probably wind up with a day crammed full of too many activities – it doesn't take much these days for that to happen.

There are many reasons any of us might reschedule appointments and I don't recall ever thinking much about it until the past few years. In my working years, it was no big deal; now it can throw off my energy level for two or three days.

The worst, the thing that incurs my wrath, is when someone doesn't show up. A while back, a person I hardly know, never arrived at the coffee place we had agreed to meet. After a half an hour wait, I went home, seething.

Three or four days later, I received an email saying she'd forgotten and, as though that was a normal thing to happen, suggesting we reschedule. I don't know what you would do but I hit delete.

But right now, I'm interested in the bigger picture – that after a certain age (undoubtedly different for each of us but in the same ballpark) – it is crucial to manage our energy and stamina. Oddly, too much time with people as when I have two or more appointments in a day, exhausts me even while being with people always enhances my sense of well-being.

Does any of this sound familiar? Do you schedule your time?



Comments

Oh yes! I keep a detailed calendar and could not do without it. I even put on the calendar my cleaning schedule; gone are the days when I can clean the whole house so now I schedule one room a day. If I have an appointment, I try to schedule it in the morning when I have more energy.
I’m so glad you mentioned just sitting and letting your mind wander. What a pleasant thing that is, to just sit and commune with one’s self.

Oh yes, everything goes on my dry erase board on the refrigerator. It sure helps me keep focused. Supposed to meet a friend for a movie today. Now you’ve got me worried she may not show up.

During the course of my working career, the schedule/calendar was an enormous part of my daily life. I used to fantasize about someday living without a schedule, and I have done just that since retiring about three years ago. Sometimes I don't know what day it is, and I rely on my phone's calendar to remind me when there is an appointment or something that I want to do (although part of that freedom has evolved into my sometimes not knowing where my phone is, which can be a problem.) I have loved that feeling. I usually have a general sense of things I hope to accomplish over the next few days, but it's been easy to recalculate when, say, I get a poor night's sleep -just shift everything over a day or two. Like you, I tend to need a little relaxation after a period of being more social than usual, even if it's spending time with people I adore, so I try not to schedule anything then.

Just this week, though, my former employer called to inquire whether I would be willing to work a couple of part-time days a week to help them out while they sort through some staffing issues. I have agreed to do 10-20 hours per week for awhile, but it has required some real soul searching on my part. I enjoyed my job and liked my employer, but I'm worried about my stamina and losing the ability to pad busy days with easy ones. I've adjusted pretty well to living on a fixed income, but I must admit the opportunity to earn a bit of extra money has been tantalizing, especially because I've planned a trip for next year that will cost a bit more than my usual vacations.

Long gone the days when I could remember whatever I intended to do for the day.
Each night I take a piece of scratch paper and first, write down what the next day and date are. Then I list the things I want(intend) to do.
There are times when nothing gets crossed off the list. I aim for at least 3 or 4.

I'm reminded of an anecdote in a Reader's Digest many years ago. A husband said he and his wife made a to-do list each day. He rarely got all the things done but his wife
always did. He asked her how she managed that. Turns out she only put things on the list when she completed them.

I don't schedule. What I do is avoid commitments. It gives me more time. Plus, I spend very little time cleaning or doing maintenance type things. I always put the dishes in the dishwasher and keep things tidy, but I don't routinely do regular cleaning. That would take too much energy. I conserve my energy for the things I really want to do.

You hit the nail on the head. This doesn’t get talked about enough. I appreciate your thoughts and insights. Thank you
Nora

This really hits home, and I am just beginning to notice and accept (the second part being the bigger change) how I need to pad my days and weeks so that I have sufficient 'down time' to restore and regenerate. I run my own business, so have the luxury of setting my own calendar to meet with clients, and I've learned not to schedule more than 3 a day, given the admin stuff, etc., that needs to be done, but really, more due to my managing my energy and the focus and ease needed to be effective. Personally, I note that if I have too many social things planned on a weekend, I'm tense, (where I tell myself I should be happy I have people who want to be with me and I with them)...so, I may empty the weekend that follows of any of this to just be. Just being is growing more and more important!

I now only schedule or do one thing per day. ie- I usually swim on Thursday but yesterday I chose not to swim but rather to go for an early dinner with a friend. Nevertheless I was in bed by 8.30 with my iPad!

Since I no longer buy household items or clothes I bought myself an Apple Watch and AirPods this week. Love both but the AirPod music has me dancing instead of walking while the watch counts the steps! Life is sure different - it is made up of tiny segments on the way to the end.
Take care Ronni - I would certainly have hit DELETE too!

The only calendar I ever kept (outside of work) was used for my personal finances. I had a large desk pad calendar and i would mark down when bills needed to be paid, investments updated, and taxes due. Occasionally there would be a note about a doctor's appointment or scheduled maintenance on my car. But that was then. Today, I lead an unstructured life.
Any important reminders are sent to my email.
Facebook reminds me of my friend's birthdays. And anything really important I write on a post-it-note and stick it on my computer screen. The days and weeks come and go too quickly now for a calendar to tell me what to do.

I have always scheduled my time, to the inth degree. While working and raising a family and doing various volunteer positions, I kept detailed calendars and always planned ahead. My life is much simpler these days, but I find I still do all that scheduling. I plan far in advance. I'm working on November's schedule right now. I want to know exactly what I have to do to make the week work for me, so I am constantly analyzing the calendar. I keep one by the computer, one at my work place in the family room, and another at the back door.

The back door calendar is pretty loosey-goosey, with just appointments like medical, dental, hair. The work station calendar has all my storytelling schedules as well as all other events. The one next to my computer has the days I will be away from home.

When I attended the funeral of a lady in our church, her grandchildren told of her daily, weekly, and monthly lists. She never missed anything and everything got done because of those lists. I liked that idea and have started to incorporate lists for daily schedules.

My day planner is very detailed with my daily goals, appointments and notes of things that I need to keep track of. ..kind of like a diary. I keep my day planners a year after they are filled. Comes in handy when those stupid Medicare and Blue Cross bills comes rolling in months after you've had the services.

I plan only one commitment a day, whether a doctor's appointment, a trip to the grocery store, or a haircut. And not on successive days, if at all possible. Everything goes on my calendar, including reminders like it's trash night, somebody's birthday, time to change the furnace filter, etc. The window for outside commitments gets pretty small in winter since I don't drive after dark. I can also set a verbal reminder via my Google Assistant (no notation required. I tell it to set such and such a reminder, and at the specified time, it reminds me audibly). Said reminder also gets added to my computer calendar automatically which syncs with my phone calendar automatically. I do love the technology. It sure beats yellow stickies all over the place (although they were revolutionary in their time).

I’m meeting former coworkers/friends for lunch and a movie so I rescheduled something I normally do the day before to another day and not plan anything the day after....

I would “Delete” for sure

A friend just asked me to go with to see Bruce Hornsby in concert in March 2020. My first thought was " I can't, I'm going to be tired."

Yes, I do know this far in advance I'm going to be exhausted! It's on a Friday night at 8PM, in winter. I'm going to be in bed before they even do sound checks. And no, I don't want to change my entire schedule - taking Friday off work so I could nap, planning on getting absolutely nothing done the Saturday after so I can rest my brain and back in bed all day. Love ya Bruce, and I don't know what you usually do at 2 in the afternoon, but that time would work so much better for me!

Yes, I have to schedule time to allow myself to be tired. I make lists, and sometimes even lists of the lists I need (especially for vacation.) What to get done inside, what needs doing outside, then they get numbered by priority, and then a "move to next week" column. What trips I need to make - docs, groceries, vet - and I can only do so many in a day before my back says " You're done, go home."

I have a hair appointment for tomorrow; takes about 90 minutes for color and cut, but I already feel like the whole Saturday is "ruined."

Another hot button topic! I have just realized how tight my mind was becoming, how unhappy that was making me. Lots of scheduling, to do's, which leads me to false wanting or feeling that I need something that, really, is way behind the importance of BEING. The coyotes brought all this to a head, by recently showing themselves around my house. Now, if I don't want my dear companion Lotte, a small chihuahua mix, to be eaten, I need to be more alert when we are outdoors, and we are outdoors a lot. This necessary tightening up was so aggravating that it made me realize all the ways in which I was unconsciously choosing things that cause tightening. Yes, I need food, but if out of certain items for a while, so what?Yes I want to help in the not-soon-enough upcoming election, but it's got to be simple. That's the idea of it. As much simplicity as possible. If we don't live from our spirit now, then when?

I could have written this. I am sitting here barely able to lift a leg or an arm as I am feeling so burned out having over scheduled myself completely. I realise I can't have a social life and a life of activism for impoverished senior women even though I have put every bit of energy into this and then tried to maintain a semblance of social life on top of it.

so what to do? Something has to give and it can't be me.

I am really mulling this today.

Thank you!

XO
WWW

I too have found that I need to carefully schedule so as not to have too much to do on any one day. And as someone say above, they would also "Delete" (so to speak) those who are so casual about not showing up for things that have been so carefully scheduled. What I've also found myself doing is "deleting" (slightly) small talk with people I've tried (ever so gently, I promise!) making friends with and who--either by cancelling with or without notice but over & over lunches, etc. that we've scheduled or who pull back ("Oh dear, no I'm not interested in going to lunch/coffee/whatever with you, it's uhm uhm, things going on right now, uh, you know, just not able to, bla bla") as soon as you try to schedule the most casual thing. But! The next time you run into them somewhere, oh how they love to chit chat and tell you all about what's going on with them (never asking you how you're doing, of course). And you know what? I've gotten tired of that. So with the 2 gals it's most recently happened with, if I run into them, if we make eye contact I smile but keep walking past; if she says "Hi" I'll say "hi" back but keep walking past; if she initiates a conversation, no matter how cheerful and *as if* she's so glad to see me, I'll make a few 2 or 3 word replies ("Oh, really? Uh, huh. Wow, really?") and then take my leave. And this has helped me a lot with both my physical and emotional fatigue. And I swear it's not that I'm coming from "Oh, so you can't stand going to lunch/coffee with me? Well, then I can't stand engaging in very much small talk with you, so there, nyaah, nyaah!" The way that I feel is that, due to my age and various other things (husband needing more & more attention, etc.), my time is limited; and while I still love small talk with the few real friends I've got, my time is too precious to me to hang around for an hour or something listening to all about someone's grandkids or trip to Europe when I know that this relationship is never to going to go anywhere near becoming anything other than one-sided, she just chats *at* me ocassionally when she runs into me because she feels like talking at someone & I just happen to be that good ol' any port in a storm.

So now I begin to understand how I noticed when younger how some older people didn't seem to relish small talk with just anybody; I just thought it was because they were grumpy due to being old. Now I see why; it's survival method of managing what precious time you've got left.

We actually keep two hard copy calendars. I now find that what I did young may take three or four times as much time, and yes is very energy draining. I kid people saying that when young I went to parties and dates, now it's doctor appointments and funerals! I thought with not working I would have lots more time and would get all sorts of things done. Not. I put off interviewing contractors for my various property projects. The interviews are even more
time consuming now because I'm slower and miss things. We actually have a very tight schedule, interruptions delay everything. I wish I could hit the delete but sometimes I have to salve my current relations with people to get anything done. If we were the 1%, we would have a secretary to do all this. I'm afraid the hassle will only become worse. As always, good help is hard to find and not cheap.

What all the above said, plus if possible hire a housekeeper. I do some fiddley stuff but every two weeks that dear woman’s scours the kitchen and bathroom, and vacuums and washes the floors, minimum, then anything else she can fit into two hours.
It’s heaven.

Love all this: the original blog and discussion. After my sixth concussion calendars and time (keeping track of) are problematic. I have an electronic calendar on both my computers and phone -- they all synch. I look at the calendar about 10 times a day. Nevertheless on Thursday I arrived at 1:30 for my 12:30 ukulele class. Jeez; something didn't work right that day in my brain.

I still have a fair amount of physical energy but when I arrange more than 3 activities (especially those involving a drive) I am psychically/neurologically/physically exhausted. I'm still struggling with balance cause I love the things I schedule -- one at a time. But I'm getting better at this.

Your post and all the above comments are a fun read. I just sent my granddaughter and her boyfriend home a couple of days ago, and I am blissed out with, as I said to my daughter, "nothing happening." I am entirely capable of just sitting and "being." I too (except when I have grandchildren and family "events,") schedule one thing a day if I can.
Otherwise, I'm pretty unstructured. My regular routine (I am a poet, and that is in its way a cottage industry) got utterly disrupted when I had major surgery followed by the death of a daughter. Now that life has settled out a bit, I'm sort of stuck in recovery mode--i.e. unstructured. Oh well. . .

Others do the scheduling for me now. I joined Hospice last week to be able to receive in-home help. I was not being able to get to the doctors due to transportation problems and now my medical team comes to my house. The only problem is that I never know what time of day they will arrive and if I did not sleep well and plan on taking a nap I don't dare because this is the day the nurse will see me.

I pay my bills the day I get the invoice and never get out for activities so there isn't all that much to put on a calendar. I do, however, put a note on the calendar the day the grocery shopping aide will call for my list.

Life becomes both simpler and harder at the same time when you become ancient. I never liked to be tied to a schedule and always tried to stay flexible in plans that could be changed. Now life makes the changes for me and I am at the mercy of others.


I always appreciate "Time Goes By", Ronni, and the timely topics you present to your readers. Plus, all your commenters bring food for thought for me.  Thank you all.

   Today's discussion brought to mind a comment made by an older Neurologist  I was taking my husband to 10 years ago.   He was getting ready to retire and thus giving his own life a lot of thought like we are.  He said, "I've started thinking about each day as a shiny quarter I've found on the sidewalk.  I can spend it any way I like; but I can only spend it once." I remind myself of it often when my days feel so finite in this 9th decade of doing 'stuff'.

And a thanks to Bruce as he reminded my "Post-It" habit is still a good one. They really do help me stay on track, and the colorful little flags aren't clicking, beeping or buzzing.

I have mastered the art of home delivery. I can get everything now via ordering online through my computer. Even my groceries and medical supplies.
Check out instacart and see if you qualify.

It has been a godsend.
I also signed up for Meals on Wheels. For only $30 a week, they deliver healthy dinners and lunches. Or $20 a week for just dinners.

As I age, I find more ways to get me through my days. My town also offers FREE transportation to and from doctors and hospitals. Call you town supervisor or whatever and see what senior benefits they offer.

I also buy most of my stuff through WalMart. Vitamins, shampoo, toiletries...I make a list and when I get $35 together I qualify for the free shipping. I hate Amazon but they're good also. As for talking to people on the phone, I could NEVER talk for that long. 10 to 15 minutes tops. Any longer and it's too exhausting.

Good luck.

This 75 yr. old is currently on a vacation in Switzerland with my hardy 79 year old husband and his two younger-than-me brothers. I am exhausted from all the walking, the train schedules, the search for restaurants, and the young people. if I can get a good night’s sleep, I can probably make it two more days until that god awful plane ride. I’m not sure I can do another European holiday.

After a lifetime of keeping schedules and working to accomplish things, most people I know struggle with the idea that they aren't required to accomplish things at this stage of life. I think some people are working vigorously to build a long, detailed, and admirable obituary. Not my goal.

Ronni, as well as commenters: I thoroughly enjoyed all today. I'll be 80 mid-Nov. and have felt older this past year with a capital "O." I used to be Ms. Better Homes & Gardens. All my plans for this Spring went belly up because my husband fell down the stairs onto the concrete-floored basement resulting in a concussion and his being in and out of the hospital several times. Home health care was terrific but added to my exhaustion due to the new people coming and going frequently. It took from March until June this year to begin to get back to where I was before...not that I didn't feel tired, etc. then. The positive side to this experience is I now can see the film of gray dust on my bookcases and ignore it. I just recently have done my "Spring" cleaning this "Fall." I've gotten rid of tons of things like clothes, pottery, glassware, holiday decorations...minimizing my stuff. I've also just begun to get outdoors and tend my English cottage gardens. I finally feel rested and back to whatever normal is for me. For several years now, we've been going to medical appointments more than I would like and I too always need a day doing nothing following them. I do all the driving which tires me, particularly when I'm going to an unfamiliar location. Ann wrote about major surgery and the worst thing I can think of, her daughter's death. I can't imagine how awful that was and is for her. Someone else suffered a concussion. Oh, and yes, I too have unfriended a couple of longtime pals. Such similar experiences. I read your blog and the ensuing comments, and it helps me to maintain my strength and motivation. As Rodney Dangerfield said, "Old age isn't for sissies." He was certainly correct but what a fantastic group of folks here at your blog!

I follow the Lola Plan, coined for a friend named Lola, a bit older than I who schedules 1-2 activities per day then usually follows up w 1-2 days off, that is, doing nothing scheduled or nothing at all. A perfect plan that works and that I will adjust to accommodate changing realities as they happen.

A good post subject, Ronni. The comments illustrate what you wrote earlier, that mature/older people are not a homogeneous group. Some schedule their time, some don’t. I enjoyed reading them all.

The calendars on my wall used to be filled with appointments for my husband: doctors (5 different ones) labs, and more. Since he died my wall calendar is blank. On my cell phone calendar I only show the dates I’ll drive to Atlanta and the return dates to Nashville. For a while I really worked hard in our GA house to clean, clear, give away the 43 years accumulation but became exhausted and depressed. Now I understand the 500 round-trip miles of those monthly trips will get me down, so I do something nice at least once or twice while there - tomorrow I’ll go and watch the movie Downton Abbey (have not been to a movie alone in decades.) I often sit on the back or front porch and have perfected as you said the “I usually stop whatever I'm doing now and then to just sit.” I focus more on the moment and look at all the GA pine trees and watch the birds. The final move from GA to TN might then months or even years, well so be it. I enjoy my time and schedule little.

I love the fact that so many of us are technologically savvy enough to keep track of things electronically. I love computers, laptops, smart phones and tablets but my fridge has a magnetic one week calendar stuck to it so I can keep track of what day it is, by deleting what went before, reminders of when to clean the cat box before I can smell it, and help me remember that I'm out of butter.

At the moment, my subconscious is trying to persuade me to do the washing up, and I might. The pen and paper are sitting quietly and neatly on the table inviting me to get to it, and I might. The treadmill calls silently "time to move you old bat." Shush. I will.

I have decided no more flights long or short, no more parties with more than 4 people.

It looks to me as if we have all managed to "age gracefully" in any way that suits us. So glad you are all out there and, once again Ronni, THANK YOU.
o/

I read and smile and all shared sounds familiar
lucky none of this started with me until almost 80.
Now still not the same since heart attack earlier in the year
and next month 85 rolls around, I have to really think about this
because the mind say I am about 50.
Miss so much I did, gardening, baking, times with children and grandchildren
and then I start listing things I am doing
and I am doing good.

Only if an item involves at least one other person do I schedule it. My feeling is that anything that I do by/for myself, I can work in as required.

As I read your article, I saw myself. I thought I was being lazy because I would come home from an appointment and just want to sit. I felt terrible because I cannot stand long phone conversations and thought I was just not a caring person. Some days I have three different things scheduled and I feel like I just don't want to be bothered when I get home and someone is still around.Thank you for letting me see I am not the only one who feels like you do.

I too am glad that others have mentioned being relieved by the posts that others feel the same way they do, that they not just being lazy. (Now if I could just convince my husband that I'm not being lazy...yeah, right...this is someone who's never even "allowed" me to be sick--"You say you're not feeling good, huh? Well, either snap out of it like I do or get to the dr. & get a shot to snap you out of it"--so he's not about to "allow" me to be old and take it easy. And people like him only get worse as they get older, sigh.)

I never got the hang of electronic or cellphone calendars. I use a giant wall calendar that shows the entire year at once — an erasable marker version, but it comes in paper form as well. I hang it vertically, but on the backside there is a horizontal version. I love being able to see all twelve months at once. Soon it will be time to order the 2020 version.

I am also a list maker. I love lists! Like the calendar, they are a necessity, because if I don't write it down, it doesn’t happen. I simply can't remember appointments or “to do's” anymore. Lists are my external, supplemental brain.

As for scheduling, I don't like to have more than one “social” activity per week, and every other week is better. All my hobbies are solitary, I'm an introvert (anti-social?), and like lots of alone time. Definitely not more than one appointment or activity on any given day. Next week is a haircut and a doctor's appointment. That's plenty!

Hey! It is 8.10 PM. I am off to bed. I told you I went out for dinner last night - didn't I? I also went to the Seniors Club this afternoon and tried my hand at Table Tennis for approximately half an hour [Failed]. Exhausted. My excuse - 85 and one half. It makes me mad though. Night night - my heating pad awaits!
xo

Appointments involving others warrant being noted on my pocket-size calendar, much preferred to reprogramming into changing digital devices by me. Perhaps if I was working, coordinating in family mode with others schedules, I’d welcome the digital reminder bells and whistles. Retirement for me means minimizing schedules and obligations. All other activities I generally persist in challenging my memory to recall, usually including items I need from the store. Am currently focusing on building my physical strength and endurance which is proving to be challenging but beneficial and encouraging.

I’ve pretty well reconciled myself to the declining number of once enjoyed sometimes lengthy phone conversations with distant old friends — their death, and probable Alzheimer’s recent years in one case, have impacted that pleasure which I really do miss. There’s much I enjoy discussing verbally rather than writing, email etc. Hearing loss has resulted in a couple old friends who don’t use the computer ceasing to use the phone, one has since died, but the other wanting long written letters with whom I sometimes engage. Days can go by with my entertaining myself at home without other contact but I don’t find myself bored or lacking for activities. There are more things to do around here than I get to as I prioritize what gives me pleasure. Currently I’m even taking a hiatus from blogging other than stopping by here some days.

Definitely much less gets done on any given day than I once accomplished. Another adaptation aging has introduced for gracious acceptance if I want to keep my peace of mind.

I laughed outloud at Christi Fries comment "A friend just asked me to go with to see Bruce Hornsby in concert in March 2020. My first thought was " I can't, I'm going to be tired."

I would ask if it's going to be after 4 p.m. If it is, I too would be tired. I don't schedule any event that happens after 4 p.m.

At 76, I agree with all of you. Thought it was just me and thought I was loosing it! Thank you, will stop worrying.

My favorite words now are, " Thank you I'll take a rain check" for invites with no explanation. The other word is accommodation. I've put in place things to make my free time more valuable. No. 1, I hired a house cleaning gal. No.2, I now belong to a subscription premade and deliver food plan. I have always been a list maker and calendar keeper. This is my chapter of life and being solo with family living hours away, I write my life script every day.

At nearly 79, I keep a detailed calendar, which keeps me on my toes most of the time. But yesterday, I missed going to the lobster food truck at our clubhouse, because I had it written on my calendar for Saturday. (Boo.) A common problem is scheduling too many things for one day, especially now that my husband has been in the hospital for so long (9 weeks) and I am visiting him every single day (18 miles away.)

If I try to do too many things, I end up exhausted and short-of-breath. So I have to be judicious (or try.)

I keep a paper calendar and a iCal which syncs w/ my iPod touch which I always carry w/ me (along w/ a phone). I loved my Palm Zire. It was compatible with Windows and Apple. I could update my calendar at work and home and carry my Palm w/ me. I loved it. I was distraught when it was discontinued. I even wrote the company but this is another story.

My energy level took a significant drop this year. Everyday tasks I used to crank out now get postponed which means they don't get done. I am turning to bullet journaling for help. The funny thing is my schedule changed last fall and I actually have more free time which seems to have become a wormhole.

Last Thursday, I was out of the house from 9 am to 9 pm. I was very tired when I got home. My brain no longer functions when I am tired. It actually shuts down.

I'm sorry your aquaintance kept you waiting.

I keep a calendar, a beautiful leather FILOFAX diary , a gift from my children many, many years ago. I just have to change the pages each year. I write on it and everyday have an outlook of what my week will be. I could use my Iphone, but I prefer like that.
I only schedule the things that are not routine, like doctor's appointments , lunch with friends or family, opera, manicure, etc. The activities I do every week, like water gymnastics, book club, writing class, swimming, I don't forget. Yet!:-)
I also tire quickly and take longer to recover (73)

DELETE, for sure!!

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