but does he challenge agiesm, the socially acceptable and even advanced prejudice against getting/being older and old?

Re your comment on "The Games We Played," my piece in the Feb. 9 issue of the Elder Storytelling Place in Ronni Bennett's blog, Times Go By....

You needed a stoop to play stoop ball. We had only 5-story tenements on Clarke Place, my Bronx block--no stoops. You obviously moved upscale to Brooklyn with its brownstones and multi-family houses--and stoops.

Now that Gray Matters will no longer be in Newsday, will it be available here?

To: Mr. Saul Friedman. I am one of five editors of New Pathways for Aging, published by the Harvard Institute for Learning in Retirement. It is a collection of personal stories and theoretical insights by 20 contributors regarding retirement, loss, illness, relocation, resilience, courage, creativity and hope. Five analytical chapters elaborate on themes of identity, community, the culture of aging and mortality. We wish to have it reviewed for publication and would send a complimentary copy to you if you wish. Rhoada Wald

Good call on the whole $5 per month website nonsense. What were they thinking? What are they smoking? Oh right, it's the guys who own the Knicks. You'll be missed every Sat. morning.

Great to see you will still be writing at least on this website. Your writing is invaluable and important to the aging population that appears to be forgotten. Thank you.

Hello, Saul Friedman:

I'm 82 and also from Brooklyn, mostly. Your writing speaks to me and I'm sure attracts readers who aren't our age. The truth is worth reading.
I too am a writer and quite a while ago have had stories published in some prominent publications. I've recently started a blog ( because I've started to write again after a long hiatus and I don't want my stuff to languish forever in "my documents". I've had a few stories published in good publications and hope it happens again. Life is what I'm trying to deal with, as always, and I think writing help keep me alive and well.

I'd welcome your comments and intend to read more of yours.

Gene Epstein


Just to let you know, Saul Friedman's Gray Matters column will appear on Time Goes By each Saturday beginning on 7 November.

Dear Mr Friedman
My husband and I looked foreard to reading your column every week in Newsda.We are so glad we can now read you on this website. We have gotten so much wonderful information
thru the years from you.Wishing you well.

Bravo to Ronni Bennett for giving Saul Friedman back to all who need him to speak for them when no one else will or can.

Good for you and thank you to Ronni Bennett. I write almost fiction about my clients who are seniors in Brooklyn and South Florida. They are published at

I am on the Board of Senior Umbrella Network of Brooklyn, a not for profit organization of professionals who serve seniors, "Inspired" by Actual Senior Issues. We would like to send you an email or a letter. How can we contact you?

Hi Saul,
My name is JR. I’m a reader and fan. If I understood you correctly, I thought I heard you say on NPR that you were in the business of communicating and that communication is at least two ways. I have some thoughts that I would like to share with you about why seniors are treated so differently in the U.S. compared to Europe or even in Japan. If you are interested in feedback on that issue, please email me at: [email protected]

Also on a different issue as you are known for helping younger journalists get started, I’d really appreciate an opportunity to be able to communicate with you about some career advice. I know that you must be very busy so I don’t really know why you would take the time to write back to me as I am an obscure journalist. I can only say if you would please extend yourself to be willing to reply to me I would take your advice for many years to come and try with my writing to make a difference in people’s lives in a way that adds value to their lives. Thanks for taking that time to read this and thanks also for your great column. Best regards from JR

My husband and I searched Newsday on Saturday,in vain. Luckily I went to a meeting of CORTLI (Coalition of Retired Teachers of Long Island ) and found you again Thank Goodness.
I need my Saturday " pick-up ".
Phoebe Hanft

I wanted to foward a letter that George Roach, from Suffolk County Legal Aide, Senior Division, They are being defunded and the money is going to Tauro Law School where they are setting up a clinic, probaly witht the law students. The fact that the 3 lawyers @ Legal Aide have over 30 years of experience in Elder law doesn't seem to matter. Can you e-mail me so that I can foward His letter that he sent to your old paper to you?
Us Old folks thank you for being theri & defending the needs of the elderly.
I am the Convenor of the Gray Panthers of Suffolk County.
Marilin Engelman

.....boy do I miss your Saturday column in Newsday.
You are both an advocate for seniors as well as a most eloquent journalist. Along with the late Murray Kempton, you make journalism a literary treat for readers. Glad to see you are still at it. Only complaint is the earring.....c'mon, is a gray pony tail next? Stay cantankerous!

David E. Miller

If Ms. Engelman will email me directly or give me her email, I'd be interested in looking into this'
FYI [email protected]

I am a former Newsday employee. I left in April 2009. I worked there in Transportation and Circulation since 1972. It is truly a crying shame what has happened at Newsday.
I live with my 89 year old father and looked forward to your column every Saturday. I am glad I stumbled upon your new website. Keep up the good work.

I have had a google alert on you for a while and could not understand where you went. Please continue to write. YOU HAVE GIVEN SO MUCH TO US. I MISS YOU.


Hi, researching Helen Thomas I discovered you.I am now a free lance writer formerly a comedy PR @ a midtown showbiz agency & also A&E editor small Bklyn college student newspaper.Would like to email samples of my work on aging:
"I'm A Relic In A Playpen"
"&"Age Is Just A Numbers Game" My work is sometimes outrageous . . .
but always funny. How may Icontact you?

I am 75 and writing my first book...all about aging...spent my 60s getting a PhD. in Human Development and Aging at Fielding Graduate University. It's absolutely the best time of my life. I have adopted you as a mentor as well as a magnificent inspirer. Thank you for being here.
Suzanne Baer, 6.20.2010

Sadly I am posting that Saul passed away last Friday from stomach cancer. He was home at the time.

I am close to Saul’s age and am also a Brooklyn Boy. His column, Gray Matters, was for me the highlight of the Saturday paper. He and I e-mailed occasionally about the column, always with good humor.

Saul, you will be missed.

Sincere condolences to Evelyn and the family.

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